Monday, 8 December 2008

Alcoholism Chat

Alcoholism chat - just a short one. Jane restarted her binge, as mentioned. She cannot stop this binge and I have no legal right to stop it. If I do it would be false imprisonment. Strange that. Maybe it's not so strange. She has the right to decide what happens to her. If I forced her to stop by, for example, locking her in her room, she would eventually sober up sufficiently to scream and there would be pure mayhem. I would be committing a crime. If a hospital drug her sufficiently to stop her moving or being conscious that is not false imprisonment. So that is the only way to get her to stop.

She forced me to buy some more Vodka yesterday. She has been on a binge for about 2 weeks, or so, by my estimation, which is her longest. She will no doubt lose her job (at some time in the not too distant future). She is not, in fact, fit for work and must consider some other method of living. We could survive without her working. This depends on me staying with her, of course.

I am about to call an ambulance to take her to hospital. As I said, it is the only way to get her to stop. She simply can't do it. This is the worst I have seen her. She has given up completely and has said during this binge that she thinks she is dying. I think if I let her carry on she would be right. She even made a half hearted attempt at committing suicide during this binge by taking sleeping tablets as well as Valium as well as anti-sickness pills. This actually helped as it put her to sleep and stopped her for a while.

Alcoholism chat to alcoholism and death

8 comments:

  1. Oh, my dear Freddie Fox....I have been praying for both you and Jane. You must be pretrified at this point. It's hard to believe anyone's liver could survive this one. The fact that she is still alive if unbelieveable. Doesn't seem as though she can pull herself out of this one - even getting a little sober she must be so sick. I hope she gets to the hospital in time though she may already be so badly damaged it may be too late. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

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  2. I am sorry to hear such bad news...I was thinking about Jane this weekend and had hoped that things would turn out better.

    I can see why you would take her to the hospital. Do they offer any sort of counceling/after treatment? It seems Jane suffers from depression, but I am not sure. You figure the hospital would provide long-term care, in this case, since she has been admitted a few times.

    I will keep you in my prayers!

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  3. Hi Pebbs

    Thanks for your comment and prayers. Jane does suffer from depression. The hospital just stop the particular binge she is on by tranquillising her. They keep her in for about 4 days or more and when she is OK (just) she is released.

    It's just a way of stopping the binge. But as it happens she seems to have stopped for the time being. This is preferred as it is less disruptive and recovery faster. She binges for about 7 days every 3 weeks but this is just a rough guide. Anything goes. She also drinks in between binges but uses less booze.

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  4. I can relate with you completely at the moment. Calling an ambulance is a good idea,if even just to dry her out a little. I agree with the other posters; sometimes you wonder how their bodies can survive these binges. You are a good person to care for her. I hope it isn't at the expense of your well being. It is hard to walk away though.

    Good luck to you and Jane.

    Natalie

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  5. oncmy friends,

    alcoholism is but a symptom of a deeper problem. tranquilizers (while good for preventing alcoholic withdrawal seizures) mask the need for introspection and inquiry into the unresolved issues that propel us towards "chronic, habitual suicide"(my term for alcoholism). i understand full well the holiday syndrome as that is when i dwelled in the house of self-pity most. it was as if i was standing in the cold, cold snow outside of a home watching a family that looked so very much like mine living a life together that i could not imagine nor even feel. alcoholism is called the "lonely" disease and it is that, it is definately that.

    my friend, freddy fox, i must tell you this. you have mentioned that you wonder if you will be "alone" again this christmas as in others. you HAVE and CONTINUE to be alone that day as in everyday where the disease of addiction resides. the alcoholic/addict's first lover is her bottle/drug and everything and everyone from spouse to parent to child is somewhere much farther down in priority. this is the heartbreak of both the alcoholic and those that love us.

    know that we in recovery remember how it was and how it could be again should we ever give up our vigilence in staying sober. it is that above all else that strengthens my resolve. that and a 12 year old girl--my daughter--who i lost when she was but 3 years of age due to alcoholism. i can never get back those missed baby days. i can never hug her on her very first day of school. i missed so many birthdays, so many holidays. now that we are mother and daughter again i cannot envision another minute of her life missed lost in drink.

    i wish jane recovery. i wish you, my friend, the very same. here in texas you are loved. both of you. just as you already are. devon

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  6. friends,

    i suggest watching some of the powerful a and e "intervention" shows. i don't believe that they were/are seen anywhere but the states but anyone can go to this link to watch full episodes. i suggest starting with "lawrence's story" and then possibly "sylvia's story." these are actual people with actual addictions. definately a huge wake-up call for anyone who questions the seriousness of alcoholism.

    www.aetv.com/intervention/ - 56k - Cached - Similar pages

    devon

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  7. Hi Guys

    I feel your love and your sadness. It helps. It makes me sad. It makes me tearful. It makes me try again.

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  8. Oh my, just what I thought - depression. That can be a tough battle. It runs in my family and I have been dealing with it since I was a child, (my grandmother suffers from depression, who pretty much raised me while my mother was at work). The doctors prescribed med's to her - different kinds until we found one that actually worked. It helped my grandmother tremendously, (her symptoms where crying all the time, lonlieness...etc). She still goes through bouts of lows/highs, but maintains a more 'normal' overall mood level.

    Perhaps this is too simplistic though, since Jane seems to have layers of childhood trama to deal with.

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I'd like to hear the experiences of both alcoholics and the victims of alcoholics, please.