Here is what it is like Living With An Alcoholic. Whatever a normal relationship might mean, it doesn't exist. It is snuffed out by the dreaded Mr V (vodka). One of the first things that comes to mind is that alcoholics are known to be unreliable and just plain liars. And I am not being critical of alcoholics. I am just describing the facts. Alcoholism drives the alcoholic to lie and deceive. It becomes a way of life. And broken promises abound. Promises to change and stop. These are all well intentioned but can never be kept until the alcoholic is what AA calls a recovering alcoholic. Recovering alcoholics are alcoholics who are able, for the time being, to control their alcoholism. It is as good as it can get for them and their partner. So living with an alcoholic is a very fragile existence, the relationship always undermined by a breach of trust or a potential breach of trust.
Then there are the rows. These occur during the binge drinking or continuous drinking (if the alcoholic is a trickle drinker). If you are a non-alcoholic and your partner is the alcoholic you'll be an unpaid carer and that wears thin after a while. And if it is true that alcoholics are childlike and have never grown up, you'll be a father or a mother as well as a partner. And you'll get to know a lot about hospitals and nursing and drugs. Drugs to calm the nerves (of who?), drugs to stop the sickness, drugs to tranquillize and drugs to help repair the body once the alcoholic partner has left hospital.
Living with an alcoholic will sap your energy and eat away at your spirit and positivity. There will be the police (in my instance) coming around because the alcoholic makes reckless telephone calls and forgets she/he made them. You'll see the dark side of life and wonder why the hell you are in this mess and how low you have fallen.
Living With An Alcoholic and hospital