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Overdose

This is a short post out of respect for Jane. She has taken an overdose in an attempt to end her life. She is in hospital. It is serious. My love for her that is so beaten up by her addiction is still intact deep inside me as is the beautiful core of her heart. I am fearful and anxious. Many times I wanted to be free from her and now it seems I might be. And I feel empty.
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  1. Anonymous6 August 2012 at 10:41

    I am so sorry to hear that. I have followed your blog for a while now as I'm in a relationship with an alcoholic too, and much of what you write resonates with me. My partner has been unable to control his alcoholism. He has lost his job, his ties to his blood family, and all of his friends. He has tried three times to commit suicide by taking an overdose. With hindsight these may have really been a cry for help from his estranged family/friends. Could that be the case with Jane? I know very well the emptiness and feeling of helplessness that you are feeling and my heart goes out to you. It is very hard to care for someone so much, to give everything you have emotionally, and for a suicide attempt to be the end result. I think that alcoholics are very resiliant people - they have to be to withstand the physical and mental traumas they put themselves through. My partner has finally managed to get his GP to refer him for cognitive behavioural therapy and for counselling. There have been no actual appointments yet as these things take forever to actually happen but there is some glimmer of hope. Is it possible for you to go with Jane to her GP and request the same? I know i'm stating the obvious but there are no happy alcoholics. There is usually an emotional reason behind the drinking that needs to be tackled before they are realistically likely to give up drinking. This is my hope anyway. My thoughhts are with you and Jane.

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  2. Anonymous6 August 2012 at 18:56

    I am so sorry to read that she has attempted suicide. I pray that she pulls through and has an awakening as to what she is doing to herself and you. My thoughts are with you as you wait. And with Jane.

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  3. Anonymous7 August 2012 at 01:16

    Thanks for the comments. I am going to the hospital today.

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  4. Anonymous12 August 2012 at 14:50

    My thoughts are with you both..

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  5. Anonymous21 August 2012 at 09:25

    Hoping and wishing all is better. Is there any news?
    fred g.

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  6. Recovery Mental Health1 September 2012 at 06:52

    Hopefully this is her bottom... If not, you need to take care of you.
    God Bless you and your family.

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  7. And So She Said...3 September 2012 at 17:53

    Hi freddie, I am checking in everyday. How are you both doing?

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  8. Anonymous12 September 2012 at 15:01

    Just checking in to see if things are better. Prayers for both of you

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