Monday, 16 February 2009
Victims of Alcoholics Need to Talk
Photo by Mexicanwave
Victims of Alcoholics Need to Talk or write about their experiences. Not long ago I went to Al-anon. I don't go now. Perhaps it was the wrong group for me. I found that I sensed from the silent reaction of the others that I was either saying too much and/or it was too near the bone; I was too outspoken for that group. It wasn't benign and passive enough. Fair enough, but I like to talk the truth, to express my feelings and vocalize what I think I have learned. Some of it will be wrong and some right but expressing ourselves is important to relieve stress levels, which are likely to be higher in victims of alcoholics, that is, people who are not alcoholics who are living with alcoholics.
The idea of talking about one's problems as a means to dissipate them is, after all, well known and is supported by recently released research carried out at the University of California. Apparently writing about a bad experience (as I am doing in this blog) is often cathartic and it can reduce stress by helping the brain to control regions that process negative emotions.
Stress control is one reason why we have an impulse to verbalize and express ourselves. It happens naturally. I will use this research to justify this blog! This blog has two functions (a) it helps to control the stress caused by living with Jane's alcoholism and (b) it might throw some light on the causes of alcoholism and the damage it causes to people associated with the alcoholic.
Victims of Alcoholics Need to Talk to Codependency