The Diary of a Victim of an Alcoholic

This is a brief post to try and keep the site alive. No one has read a single page on this site for months! :) I think Google has disowned it completely. It no longer recognises it. I won't say more now. Update: the reason? Because I had inadvertently made the website PRIVATE! I was trying to make myself anonymous. I failed and I am in the open now. I don't care. Here is a video on how to beat alcoholism! But don't believe it as a cure. There is no cure. It is all about controlling it, not beating it.  There is only one way to beat alcoholism: have the will and commitment to do it. You genuinely want to stop and you seek help such as AA to achieve that goal. This attitude must be permanent for the rest of your life. No other options.

You have to be sympathetic towards alcoholics because there but for the grace of God go I. Alcoholism is described as a disease. I don't think that it is. It is a very strong habit, almost impossible to shake off. But humans are predisposed to this sort of condition. Anybody can be born with this predisposition towards alcoholism.  Photo: Pixabay. Humankind is quite a messed up species of creature. Clearly, a large segment of society finds life intolerable and therefore they need to get out of it, remove themselves from it. Alcoholism does it for them only the downside after the upside is enormous. The downside is far worse than the upside but alcoholics never quite digest that simple fact. So we have to be sympathetic towards alcoholics. They damage their lives and they can't control their lives and they hate the world. I understand it completely but fortunately I don't have that problem (although I hate the human world sometimes). And if you don't have that problem...

A permanent danger for the binge alcoholic is drink-driving. They call this driving under the influence, DUI, in America. Binge alcoholics are those that are sober for a long time, perhaps a month or up to 3 months, and then they have an almighty binge during which they become completely and horrifically drunk, make a mess of their home and end up in hospital.  Gotta stop DUI - drink-driving when on a binge.  Image by  PublicDomainPictures  from  Pixabay   The binge, as is the case with Jane, might last for about a week. It might last for four days or, in all, three weeks. It's all very flexible but during this time vodka stocks need to be topped up. If a binge alcoholic is drinking a bottle of vodka every day, over 10 days she will be drinking 10 bottles of vodka so she will probably have to pop down to the shops to get some more. That presents a problem because she will be dead drunk, covered in filth and looking like the worst tramp in the world. She ...

Well, I don't think you can have a relationship at all in the conventional sense of a man/woman's loving relationship in which you both contribute in the same way. It is bound to be badly disrupted by the alcoholism of one partner. Indeed destroyed often or normally as it is intolerable. It is the alcoholic's lying with damages trust which is also a major factor. It is said that it is the sober partner of the drunk alcoholic is suffers far more and relatives of the alcoholic if they are close. The drunk is out of it. Sleeping through all the mayhem. What kind of relationship can you have with an alcoholic? Image: Pixabay. In fact, I would be surprised if any partnership survived the alcoholism of one partner provided the other was either a non-drinker or certainly not alcoholic. In other words you are mixing together one normal, healthy person without a drink problem with a person who has a genuine drink problem. The amount of friction that generates is going to destroy the...

Update: the road to recovery is shorter than I had expcted for her....This is a quick update on my last post. In that post I said that Jane had caught Covid-19 at hospital while she was recovering from an alcoholic binge. In hospitals in the UK they test you all the time for Covid. Anyway, she recovered in hospital from the worst of the symptoms and is now at home. She says that she lacks energy. She says that Covid is a terrible disease and she is very fatigued and unable to do almost anything. I am vaccinated and I will be doing some research on how infectious a person is after contracting the disease and recovering from it. There must be a time when on the path to recovery a person is no longer infectious. My vaccination was about two weeks ago so I have one more week before I am properly immunised. The booster in about 10 weeks time will immunise me some more. That's about it for the update. Let's just say that Jane pulled through and is on the slow road to recovery. She is...

Jane is currently in hospital after a binge. She went to hospital because of an alcoholic binge and while she was in hospital she was routinely tested for Covid-19 and found to be positive. I believe that she caught the coronavirus from a previous very recent stay at hospital after another binge.  I spoke to a doctor and they said that Covid-19 is quite prevalent at hospitals. It is hard to avoid getting it despite the testing that they do in hospital and the efforts to separate infected people from non-infected people. So it's been quite difficult.  You know it's quite hard to know what to report. This blog has been going for a long time and perhaps I'll  to try and provide an overview. I think she's improved dramatically over the 20 or more years that I have known her. But she still has alcoholic binges. This time they are about three months apart but each binge last about one month when you combine the actual consumption of alcohol with the hospitalisation afterwards...