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I can't tell people the exact nature of Jane's injury from her overdose because that would be unfair and I can't say much about the overdose but it did cause an injury to one of her legs which has left her disabled and in constant heavy pain. It may repair itself and it may not.
This has cause considerable extra stress in the home. And the injury and constant pain has put considerable extra pressure on Jane. But an unexpected benefit is that Jane has lost some of her desire to drink. This may be because she has a new purpose: to get well again.
If that is the case, it tells us something about alcoholism. Purpose, a reason for living, is a way of dissipating the desire to consume alcohol. If that assessment is true, we could say that alcoholics are living aimless lives. They are bored and unhappy. They lack direction and need a purpose.
It is far from being as simple as that but it may be one factor. This is certainly the case with Jane. You would have thought that the extra stress and massive amounts of pain would create a desire to drink, to block things out etc. But no, the opposite has occured.
Jane has had a couple of blips, mini-binges but nothing disastrous. In respect of our relationship though the overdose and injury on top of the years of alcoholism has damaged the relationship further. It is all but dead.
I am considered a carer by people in social services. I feel like a carer. I always have actually, at least on occasions. I have always felt like a live-in nurse to a certain extent. That is not just me. All people who are not alcoholics who live with an alcoholic will probably feel like a carer from time to time.
Although Jane's leg injury occurred about 6 months ago, the recovery might take 2 years (if she recovers at all). This is a terrible mental burden. Then there is the financial side of things. It is all very difficult for Jane. It creates panic and despair.
I know the hospitals in this country better than most having visited Jane so often. I'll just say this. After a while, I had to get her out of hospital because they were pretty well killing her.