Sorry to hear about Jane's downward dance. I've been reading your blog for some time and have commented before so now I have to ask: does she realize how bad off she is? does she realize that the pancreatitis can't be a good sign? I wonder if she realizes what she has become. Keeping my fingers crossed for better days..for you and her.
She is somewhat in denial. She always tries to hide her drinking even after all these years which is not good because you have to admit it before you can cure it. She is very embarrassed about it. She tends to mislead even doctors to hide her drinking. That is my assessment. Pancreatitis is serious. It has happened several times before. It can be fatal and it can cause diabetes and so on. I think she knows this but knowing it does not stop her drinking. When the urge comes everything goes out the window.
I'd like to hear the experiences of both alcoholics and the victims of alcoholics, please.