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Peaceful currently - photo by fabry...

Here is a quick update, some more alcoholism chat. For the very few who follow this blog, the reason why I have not made a post for a while is because things have been quiet. This is mainly because after the last binge I kinda gave an ultimatum that unless the binge drinking stopped I would have to leave. Jane took that to heart and has put in an extra effort to stop. Also she has been away on holiday on her own for the past week so it has been lovely and quite for the last 7 days.

Did I miss her? Yes, despite the waring and the binging and the living hell when she is drinking, memories are short and the terrible moments one goes through when she is binging are forgotten until the next time, when it all comes very quickly back.

Jane returns from holiday tomorrow and it is highly likely that she will be fine for a reasonable time as she will need to work for a while to prove to her employer that she is worth employing. Then, when she feels comfortable on that front her mind will no doubt turn to Mr V and gradually the desire will build to embrace Mr V with a vengeance. I expect that to happen in about 4 weeks time or so. We will see. I will be glad if I am wrong.

Mr V = Vodka
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  1. Anonymous9 March 2009 at 08:00

    I do miss your blog, Freddie, but am very happy to hear Jane is trying so hard to keep you.

    Enjoy your peace!

    Linda

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  2. Michael Broad LLB, ARPS9 March 2009 at 08:28

    Hi. Linda, I miss your comments too!

    Things will change and I am waiting patiently for the next binge :-). The big one.

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  3. Pebbs16 March 2009 at 08:23

    Hi Freddy,

    I am SO happy to hear that Jane is on track. I hope she stays this way and remains dry...even if she has a few 'slips,' perhaps the binges will be less agressive...

    Good luck and I will continue to check your blog!

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  5. Anonymous5 July 2010 at 20:17

    You say you gave her an ultimatum but it is months later and you're still there. Do you think she ever takes your ultimatums seriously when you don't abide by them? You end up being like the boy who cried wolf. How will an ultimatum ever make her stop drinking when you don't stick to them?

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  6. Anonymous5 July 2010 at 21:32

    Response to last comment:

    Yes, you are right. I am normally pretty organised. But with this it is chaotic and I feel that I have to accept it and make the best of it. At the moment things are better and I have a glimmer of hope that it will stay that way. My life like all our lives is a compromise.

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