Skip to main content

Alcoholism Chat


Peaceful currently - photo by fabry...

Here is a quick update, some more alcoholism chat. For the very few who follow this blog, the reason why I have not made a post for a while is because things have been quiet. This is mainly because after the last binge I kinda gave an ultimatum that unless the binge drinking stopped I would have to leave. Jane took that to heart and has put in an extra effort to stop. Also she has been away on holiday on her own for the past week so it has been lovely and quite for the last 7 days.

Did I miss her? Yes, despite the waring and the binging and the living hell when she is drinking, memories are short and the terrible moments one goes through when she is binging are forgotten until the next time, when it all comes very quickly back.

Jane returns from holiday tomorrow and it is highly likely that she will be fine for a reasonable time as she will need to work for a while to prove to her employer that she is worth employing. Then, when she feels comfortable on that front her mind will no doubt turn to Mr V and gradually the desire will build to embrace Mr V with a vengeance. I expect that to happen in about 4 weeks time or so. We will see. I will be glad if I am wrong.

Mr V = Vodka

Labels

Labels:

Comments

  1. Anonymous9 March 2009 at 08:00

    I do miss your blog, Freddie, but am very happy to hear Jane is trying so hard to keep you.

    Enjoy your peace!

    Linda

    ReplyDelete
  2. Michael Broad LLB, ARPS9 March 2009 at 08:28

    Hi. Linda, I miss your comments too!

    Things will change and I am waiting patiently for the next binge :-). The big one.

    ReplyDelete
  3. Pebbs16 March 2009 at 08:23

    Hi Freddy,

    I am SO happy to hear that Jane is on track. I hope she stays this way and remains dry...even if she has a few 'slips,' perhaps the binges will be less agressive...

    Good luck and I will continue to check your blog!

    ReplyDelete
  4. Michael Broad LLB, ARPS16 March 2009 at 09:02

    This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  5. Anonymous5 July 2010 at 20:17

    You say you gave her an ultimatum but it is months later and you're still there. Do you think she ever takes your ultimatums seriously when you don't abide by them? You end up being like the boy who cried wolf. How will an ultimatum ever make her stop drinking when you don't stick to them?

    ReplyDelete
  6. Anonymous5 July 2010 at 21:32

    Response to last comment:

    Yes, you are right. I am normally pretty organised. But with this it is chaotic and I feel that I have to accept it and make the best of it. At the moment things are better and I have a glimmer of hope that it will stay that way. My life like all our lives is a compromise.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

I'd like to hear the experiences of both alcoholics and the victims of alcoholics, please.

Popular posts from this blog

Alcoholism Signs For Family

If a person regularly falls asleep just after breakfast she is possibly an alcoholic. This is because she has had more than a stiff drink early in the morning. Although, alcoholism signs for the family are hard to spot in my experience. What is my experience? It's being the partner and now (2008) a "live in partner" of an alcoholic for about 9 years. Update: I am still her partner but no longer living with her in 2024 which is 16 years after this page was first written! The first section of this article is by me based on experience. The second part is by Bing's Co-pilot after researching the internet. At the end of the article are some pointers as to whether the person in question is an alcoholic. When I first met Jane I didn't know that she was an alcoholic. At that moment in time I was an innocent to the world of alcoholism. It took me about 3 months to realize that she was an alcoholic. What lead me to this revelation? When I didn't know she was an alcohol...
Post a Comment
Read more

Living With An Alcoholic

Here is what it is like Living With An Alcoholic . Whatever a normal relationship might mean, it doesn't exist. It is snuffed out by the dreaded Mr V (vodka). One of the first things that comes to mind is that alcoholics are known to be unreliable and just plain liars. And I am not being critical of alcoholics. I am just describing the facts. Alcoholism drives the alcoholic to lie and deceive. It becomes a way of life. And broken promises abound. Promises to change and stop. These are all well intentioned but can never be kept until the alcoholic is what AA calls a recovering alcoholic. Recovering alcoholics are alcoholics who are able, for the time being, to control their alcoholism. It is as good as it can get for them and their partner. So living with an alcoholic is a very fragile existence, the relationship always undermined by a breach of trust or a potential breach of trust. Then there are the rows. These occur during the binge drinking or continuous drinking (if the alcohol...
38 comments
Read more

Alcoholics Disappoint

Emptiness born out of continual disappointment - photo by Tch0la =) Alcoholics disappoint all the time. It happens over and over again. As a victim of an alcoholic you think that you can start living even a little bit normally. Just a little bit of normality is all you ask. It is all you crave. And when you think that you are getting there, bang, she screws up again. Jane hardly ever keeps her word. She will promise and never deliver. These are the ways of alcoholics. Or at least the one I am living with. But I think it is pretty normal across the board. Alcoholics disappoint in part because they are constantly being driven by the first priority in their life: where and when to get the next drink. This rules their lives. They probably hate it but I reckon most don't even have an opinion on it. Their mind is full of the desire for that first rush after the neat vodka hits the brain. And then they can't resist the urge to repeat it. Jane does this until she falls asleep. Jane pr...
13 comments
Read more