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Alcoholic chat - things are OK right now. Well things are alright in a kinda not alright way. We argue etc. Who doesn't? But Jane is OK, working and doing things right.

That deserves some praise and I praise her for her efforts. It is a long, actually infinite, road to recovery. Recovery is the wrong word. Control is better. Perhaps she is learning to control her drinking. That is what most of us manage to do if we drink. We put the brakes on. Alcoholics don't know when to stop.

I am being criticized for this blog. It's mainly by women. No, it's entirely by women. This is a sex war thing. There is a lot of antagonism between the sexes. I am surprised society works at all sometimes.

One day if and when Jane is better perhaps people will stop criticizing. I need to express myself and at its heart this website is meant to do good, to instruct alcoholics what it is like for other people. Alcoholics sometimes are unaware of the damage they cause to people close to them. It is a very selfish habit, alcoholism..............end of alcoholic chat.

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  1. Anonymous17 November 2008 at 11:32

    I look forward to reading your blogs each week. It's hard to imagine why you would be criticized for such a thing. I hope you continue onward with your diary – it is inspirational.

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  2. Anonymous17 November 2008 at 13:43

    Hi Freddie
    If you are ending the blogg because of my comments please dont. You have indeed imparted so much useful information and provided insight from a partner of an alcoholics point of view. I check each day for new entries and would miss it so much. Please keep my comments in perspective 95% of what you say I agree with. Please keep going
    Best regards
    Sue

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  3. Michael Broad LLB, ARPS18 November 2008 at 05:45

    Hi Anon and Sue,

    Thanks for the comments. I'll keep going. What else can I do?

    Regards
    Freddie

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  4. Anonymous19 November 2008 at 04:26

    Freddie,
    I'm pretty much doing the same thing - blogging to get my thoughts in order about about my alcoholic spouse. Yes, I'm dreading Christmas too. I'm from the U.S. Thanksgiving is a family holiday at the end of this month, and I can't make any plans yet because I don't know if he's going to follow-through with his intentions and stay sober (he just got out of a detox clinic). We're suppose to go to my brother's for Christmas, but my brother is a heavy drinker, and I'm worried about the temptation, too. If I leave him alone, he'll feel sorry for himself and probably relapse. It's a terrible time of the year for sufferers from alcoholism.

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  5. Michael Broad LLB, ARPS19 November 2008 at 17:04

    Hi and thanks for the comments. Hang in there. We victims have got to stick together!

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