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Yep, Jane got back to work......just..on Wednesday last. She felt dizzy before going and looked weak and pale today, and very skinny. She is not eating well. She's lost weight. Some more idle alcoholism chat.

After a binge it takes a good 4 days really to get back on her feet. Lying in bed in the dark and drinking vodka out of a bottle at a good rate for 5-9 days takes a bit of getting over.

Anyway, good for her. I'm pleased she made it. I hope she continues to go to work and build up her strength by eating. Yes, just eating. Not a biscuit here or there or a bowl of soup for dinner but something solid and calorific to provide energy.

She was off for about 4 months and didn't once go to AA, which helped her last time she went. Next mission: get her to go back to AA. It is a never ending battle. I have said that once you have "crossed the wire" you never get back. Some, a very small percentage do. But it takes time. As long as it took to get to the wire and cross it in the first place.

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  1. Anonymous26 October 2008 at 08:49

    My name is Linda. I am an every night Jane. I work every day, come home and drink a pint of vodka and pass out. I wonder which is worse, a binger or a daily user. I hate it and wish I could get back to just being normal. We alkies are not enjoying ourselves and really don't mean to hurt anyone.

    Your posts are inspiring to me. It sounds like you really love Jane. She's so lucky to have you. I'm hoping she will get healthy and happy for you and herself.

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  2. Michael Broad LLB, ARPS26 October 2008 at 10:16

    Hi Linda, Hang in there and try and gradually, very gradually ease back. I know though how hard it is.

    Being alcoholic or being gradually driven towards it, is almost a natural consequence of living for a human being. We just can't get comfortable in our own skin or living in this world. Sure some are more comfortable than others but generally I don't think it works that well.

    Thanks for the comment.

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  3. Rock Candy26 October 2008 at 22:51

    I found your site through another blog about alcoholics and loving them.

    I just went through a brutal break-up with an alcoholic. Finding sites like this has helped me understand him better and forgive him.

    Thanks.

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  4. Michael Broad LLB, ARPS27 October 2008 at 01:59

    Hi, Thanks for the comment. Hang in there....Living with an alcoholic can be brutal, yes, and mad, bad and plain crazy. But there is some good there too.

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