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Alcoholic Behavior - The End of Another Binge

Just a quick note to say Jane has stopped her big binge and today is cleaning up her room with me. She has managed, so far, to smooth it over at work and has planned to visit her sister. So all is beautiful Chez Moi, relatively. Until the next time.

I even had the opportunity to tell her about my American trip. The first time since I came back 9 days ago.

The thing now is to get her strength back and to put some weight on. She gets very weak during a binge. All the lying down for about 2 weeks or more this time plus a poor diet. Certainly when she is on her own and binging she eats very poorly because the food runs out and she can hardly prepare anything. Jane has struggled today to get around. She feels tired all the time. Her sleep patterns are also disturbed. I'll take some time to really get back to normal, whatever that is.

Thanks for your comments. They help. And I don't want people to think I think I am good or better than Jane. I decide to live with an alcoholic. This means that I have weaknesses too, which I fully accept. I describe what happens and my emotions but I do not mean to criticize. I can walk. In theory at least. Although it is so very difficult.

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  1. Anonymous11 December 2008 at 06:14

    My Dear Freddie Fox. For now, things are good. Prayers answered. I feel happy for you, Freddie and I know you make the most of every good day with Jane. She needs you. Jeez, let's hope you never have to leave town again LOL!!!

    Linda from Pennsylvania USA

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  2. Michael Broad LLB, ARPS11 December 2008 at 10:06

    Hi Linda in Pennsylvania,

    Thanks very much for your comment. I know it is for now. Tomorrow will be different. I live in the moment. I still hope (just) for a better future but don't know how to get there.

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