Layered over that there is alcoholic behavior that comes from drinking itself. Call this, drunk behavior.
It is probably fair to say that often people who become alcoholics are stressed, depressed, upset, emotionally in pain etc. This drives them to drink - common sense stuff. The pain they feel will dictate their behavior. Depression makes you inactive, less productive. Stress makes you agitated, irritated. These emotions lead to difficult relationships with others causing more stress. This may lead to drinking but not as an alcoholic, necessarily. People can be quite heavy drinkers but not be alcoholic. Drinking though will cause relationship problems, arguments, aggression etc.
As an alcoholic Jane's behavior when she is drunk is appalling. She will do all these things:
- Lie, lie and lie again that she is not drinking even though it is obvious she is. She will lie about anything to do with alcohol. Simple example. I say, "Have you had a drink". Answer, "No". "why are you falling asleep at 10 in the morning after having breakfast?" Answer, "Don't know, I feel tired". "Have you got any booze in your room?". Answer, "No". "What is this then" (pointing to a bottle hidden under some clothes). Answer,"It's been there for ages, haven't drunk from it though". She falls asleep 10 mins later.
- Deny, deny, and deny again. She'll will never admit to drinking unless you show her the bottle from which she has drunk 3 mins ago. Then she will just look at you and roll over in bed.
- Live dangerously - walk into the street lightly clothed in cold weather - anything can happen from being mugged (this has happened) to falling over and banging her head etc. etc.
- Phone the doctor and lie to him. She doesn't always explain the situation clearly to doctors so they are in the dark.
- Phone emergency services and lie to them saying she has been mugged when she hasn't (see Christmas day posting).
- These are just a few examples.
I can go on and on....it's all bad. But right now this minute she is OK. She's got a headache. These come on without warning and are bad. Are these due to the drinking. I wouldn't be surprised if they were.
This is about day 20 after her last binge so she is due another any day now. She is trying to avoid it, she is struggling with it. She may make it. She has to deny the urge to drink to begin to control it. If as an alcoholic you drink when you feel the urge, you reinforce your alcoholism.
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