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Alcoholic Partner

There can't be that many people who are long term partners of an alcoholic - I am one of them. I never thought that I would end up the partner of a confirmed alcoholic. When I met her I didn't know as she hid it well (still does). I can tell now when she has been drinking, there are numerous subtle signs at the beginning which become very obvious soon afterwards.

The point is this, to be a partner of an alcoholic you've got to be a bit odd yourself. For me there are a number of personal reasons why I have stuck around. Although over the time that I have known her I have gone looking for alternative company many times to try and escape from her.

For sure it takes a massive level of patience to be a partner of an alcoholic. They try your patience big time.

Yet right now as I type this I am getting a glimmer of hope that she might be on course to stop. Since Christmas she has stayed on course with going to AA daily and takes her Antabuse daily too.

She seems more solid at the moment. Less argumentative. This may be because when she is "not drinking" she is in fact secretly drinking small amounts by her standard that makes her a little drunk which in turn makes her a little more difficult and clumsy (she is clumsy but this may be due to alcohol).

I hope that this is the beginning of the end of 25 years of binge drinking.. wait and see....

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I'd like to hear the experiences of both alcoholics and the victims of alcoholics, please.

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