Thursday, 31 January 2008

Alcoholism Chat

What should I do? Stay living with an alcoholic or live alone? Difficult decision. We had a bust up about 24 hours ago. I said that I thought she had been drinking ( she was sluring her words) and she went off in a huff and that was it. Not spoken since. She said the relationship wasn't working about 1 hour ago and to be honest she is right so I agreed.

She provocatively said that I should live with my mother. She said she would phone her!!! For God sake, that really is provocative. I'm 59 years of age and she knows that will provoke me. I said if she phoned her I would leave. She didn't phone her but phoned her sister who knows what she is like.

She should never phone family about such a thing. That was plain bad behavior. Keep in the home and deal with it. If you advertise problems to family it doesn't help. In the meantime I have genuinely thought that this is crazy. It is impossible to live with an alcoholic. Look, I'm not perfect, far from it but I am fairly normal. She is mixed up. I am not blaming her or anyone. It is just the way it is.

I'll have to rent somewhere. The question is where? I thought of going to somewhere warmer. The rental prices are always low in Spain. But I have a cat, a darling old cat and I cannot and will not leave her and the journey could be too much and it is hard to find somewhere to rent in Spain where they accept pets.

So, usual complications. The truth is I have gradually learnt to hate her and her lying cr*py ways. Alcohol totally destroys the person like drugs. Well alcohol is a drug in all but name.

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  2. I too am in a similar situation as yours. I regret you have undergone such an ordeal that is to no fault of your own. I am in a situation where I live with my boyfriend along with my 2 darling cats and it is such a terrible feat to encounter. I hope you have found solace and freedom in your situation alongside your darling cat. Peace and blessings to you.

  3. Thank you for your very kind words and the best of luck to you. At the moment April 2010 I am still with her and she is a bit better. Lets hope it stays that way and improves further.


I'd like to hear the experiences of both alcoholics and the victims of alcoholics, please.