Skip to main content

Alcoholism Chat

Alcoholism chat is what a lot of this Blog is about. It's meaningful chat though, from the heart, direct and honest. It's the only way to tell the world what it is like to be the partner of an alcoholic.

Jane is a very needy person. Yesterday she was depressed and had difficulty in doing things. Certainly she had difficulty in going to AA but eventually went. I took here there and she got the bus back.

She felt better after the meeting, which shows the usefulness of Alcoholics Anonymous. It always pays to actually do something about the problem no matter how hard it is initially to do it. It takes a lot of effort sometimes to get off ones backside up off the floor and do things but it always helps the mood and gives some hope and motivation.

Yesterday, Jane was depressed when she went to bed the night before and went for a run early. When she came back from the run she was in better spirits. This could be the effect of the run or she could have bought a miniature of Vodka on the way back from the run and drunk it as she walked from the shops to our home and that could be the thing that lifted her spirits.

I know that I am getting paranoiac. It gets you that way, when an alcoholic lies and lies again and always drinks secretively.

She is making some friends at AA. One of the people went to 4 AA meetings in one day. She did the washing up after the meeting apparently. She also spoke. I always ask her to participate as much as possible in the AA meetings to get the most out of them. I'm waiting for the next binge. It will almost be a relief to get it out of the way and release some of the tension in Jane.

Her desire to drink is not only born out of addiction, but punishment for being bad.

If you'd like to read more and about the current position please go to the home page (the most current page in Blogger).

photo copyright ozlogy under creative commons. The person in the photo is not Jane, the person who I am writing about. Thanks for the nice photo ozlogy

Labels

Labels:

Comments

  1. Anonymous14 May 2009 at 18:15

    My name is jedrzej i'am alcohol victim from poland... alcohol it's everyting for me... i believe in my bitter end, thank You, dear Author of A Diary of A Victim of an Alcoholic, Victim is a difficult word, also for me...

    ReplyDelete
  2. Anonymous15 May 2009 at 04:32

    Hi thanks for the comment. Yes, we are both victims. I wish you the best. It must be hard for you.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

I'd like to hear the experiences of both alcoholics and the victims of alcoholics, please.

Popular posts from this blog

Alcoholism Signs For Family

If a person regularly falls asleep just after breakfast she is possibly an alcoholic. This is because she has had more than a stiff drink early in the morning. Although, alcoholism signs for the family are hard to spot in my experience. What is my experience? It's being the partner and now (2008) a "live in partner" of an alcoholic for about 9 years. Update: I am still her partner but no longer living with her in 2024 which is 16 years after this page was first written! The first section of this article is by me based on experience. The second part is by Bing's Co-pilot after researching the internet. At the end of the article are some pointers as to whether the person in question is an alcoholic. When I first met Jane I didn't know that she was an alcoholic. At that moment in time I was an innocent to the world of alcoholism. It took me about 3 months to realize that she was an alcoholic. What lead me to this revelation? When I didn't know she was an alcohol...
Post a Comment
Read more

Living With An Alcoholic

Here is what it is like Living With An Alcoholic . Whatever a normal relationship might mean, it doesn't exist. It is snuffed out by the dreaded Mr V (vodka). One of the first things that comes to mind is that alcoholics are known to be unreliable and just plain liars. And I am not being critical of alcoholics. I am just describing the facts. Alcoholism drives the alcoholic to lie and deceive. It becomes a way of life. And broken promises abound. Promises to change and stop. These are all well intentioned but can never be kept until the alcoholic is what AA calls a recovering alcoholic. Recovering alcoholics are alcoholics who are able, for the time being, to control their alcoholism. It is as good as it can get for them and their partner. So living with an alcoholic is a very fragile existence, the relationship always undermined by a breach of trust or a potential breach of trust. Then there are the rows. These occur during the binge drinking or continuous drinking (if the alcohol...
38 comments
Read more

Alcoholics Disappoint

Emptiness born out of continual disappointment - photo by Tch0la =) Alcoholics disappoint all the time. It happens over and over again. As a victim of an alcoholic you think that you can start living even a little bit normally. Just a little bit of normality is all you ask. It is all you crave. And when you think that you are getting there, bang, she screws up again. Jane hardly ever keeps her word. She will promise and never deliver. These are the ways of alcoholics. Or at least the one I am living with. But I think it is pretty normal across the board. Alcoholics disappoint in part because they are constantly being driven by the first priority in their life: where and when to get the next drink. This rules their lives. They probably hate it but I reckon most don't even have an opinion on it. Their mind is full of the desire for that first rush after the neat vodka hits the brain. And then they can't resist the urge to repeat it. Jane does this until she falls asleep. Jane pr...
13 comments
Read more